What's Wrong With Crying?

Okay, please allow me to set up the scene for you- so, I was watching a television show that had a  tearful mom who was driving while having a tearful discussion with a friend of hers in the passenger seat. The mother’s beautiful daughter was in the backseat with a car seat of course in tow. The story progresses and the mother continues to cry and then the daughter says “mommy, stop crying!” The mother tells the little girl “I’m not crying. Mommy’s happy.” Sniff...sniff…

End scene.

This interaction became etched in my brain since last week.

So, I ask you to ponder this. When did it become not okay to cry?

As seen in the reality show, the mother was essentially lying to her daughter and therefore making it not okay to have emotions. I think that was a missed opportunity for training. Now, I know that this may seem a bit harsh or blunt. But it is a topic like this that will get me going!

I truly believe that TEARS AR HEALING.

I believe that one should honor her feelings. Her true, authentic, feelings. If you are sad, be sad in that moment. If you are happy, be happy, in that moment. Just be you, in that moment.

I wish the mother would have said “Honey, mommy is crying and that’s okay. Mommy is a little sad right now. But I will be just fine. I love you.”

Something likes that. It allows for the mother to share with the daughter openly, while being age appropriate. I think the little girl was no more than three years old.

Then I thought about how lucky I am and how grateful I am that I get to share in a person’s experience of crying and then realizing that in the very next moment, things typically feel different after a good cry.

The energy shifts and you can literally clear yourself with a good cry. And then owning that cry. In other words, allowing the cry to come from within and allowing yourself to just be.

I get to see that and share in that space when people come to me to feel better. When I am sitting there listening and cheering for them on the inside and letting the cheers out as appropriate. I get to help women work through their pain and feel better.

So, I thank the mom from last week for reminding me that there is still more work for all of us to do. To be willing to have that cry and let it out, and own it, and say “yeah, I feel sad right now.” This too shall pass.

Namaste

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!! May this 2013 bring you all the happiness, love, prosperity, and abundance you can possibly imagine and then some! Namaste!

I don’t know about you, but I can already see, taste, and feel the changes that have taken place. On a global, planetary, spiritual, and individual level.

You know, back in 2012, as if it were so long ago, anywho… in December, it was predicted that several energy shifts, planetary and otherwise would be occurring, and the Mayan calendar had also predicted the end of the world as we know it. However, I prefer to view these shifts as subtle yet swift.

I started making shifts dietary wise back in October 2012, and with that comes a new awareness of things. It’s amazing how just one bite can make a world of difference on your mood, your energy level, etc. Now, please don’t confuse with me a registered dietician, nutritionist, holistic health coach, or otherwise! I just wanted to make changes to see what would happen. As an Intuitive and Licensed Professional Counselor, I am always questioning the why’s and how’s of things. AND I am continuously evolving in healing the relationship with myself!

So, I ask you today, what subtle or large shifts have you made that you are already recognizing?

I look forward to hearing from you. May you be well.

~Namaste